Diving Into Reflection

I’ve had an interaction that has sent me reeling.  You know, the kind of conversation that leaves you examining every inch of your life and overturning every thought in your mind.  The questions that were asked of me were the most difficult questions I’ve been asked in my journey.  I spent some time heavily immersed…

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Dress Up

My daughter likes to play dress up. Only she does not call it dress up. She just calls it clothes. She will wear rain boots on a sunny day and a flannel nightgown in the middle of summer. She marches to the beat of her own drummer, and I hope it stays that way. She…

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Surviving the Aftermath

Featured photo credit: Paulina Rozpondek It’s been four years since my daughter was stillborn and what once seemed completely impossible isn’t so impossible anymore. I have survived. That is something I did not think I would be able to do after losing Zia. I am able to stand, smile and laugh about silly things. I…

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Wearing Memories

At any moment, I am wearing multiple items that represent and help me remember my son.  They are small tokens that provide a concrete thing to aid in intentionally remembering him.  To most people, these items probably don’t scream that they are memorials for a baby gone far too soon, and that’s okay.  They are…

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Guest Post: Real-Life Grief

I am husband, father, brother, and son. I am the primary breadwinner of my household. I am a voice of reason for many people in my life. I have a solid home, working cars, great family and friends, a good job with good benefits. I have good clothes and shoes to wear, I have food…

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Would She Know Me?

It happens all the time.  I see a little girl; a year and a half old, brown hair, a curious smile and I think, “That could be Dorothy.”  My breath catches in my throat as I watch her toddle back to her parents so she can be lifted into their arms.  I would know her…

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Grief and Concentration: 8 tips for coping with an inability to focus

Mamas, have you visited the What’s Your Grief website? I definitely suggest checking it out. They have SO much amazing content about grief, along with other special things they do (for instance, they have an “Exploring Grief Through Photography” online class coming up). Anyway, I saw this article about dealing with an inability to focus,…

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What song brings you joy?

Earlier this year, Still Standing posted an article about a huge playlist for bereaved parents. It’s full of songs that will really make you feel the love and grief for your baby, and everything in between. It’s a great place to go if you want to sit with your feelings, and really feel your grief…

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Go Ahead

If you are grieving, I want you to go ahead. Go ahead and do whatever brings you peace in this moment. Go ahead and venture to wherever your heart beckons you. Go ahead and get outside. Take a walk and breathe in all that nature has to offer you.  Sit on the ground.  Put your…

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Two Pink Lines

I saw two pink lines and the wave of shock and tremendous joy consumed my body. I twirled in a circle over the bathroom floor, with my hand over my mouth, trying to keep from crying or shouting. This is what I’ve wanted. This is it. And it happened 11 months after our fertility baby…

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Two Pink Lines

I saw two pink lines and the wave of shock and tremendous joy consumed my body. I twirled in a circle over the bathroom floor, with my hand over my mouth, trying to keep from crying or shouting. This is what I’ve wanted. This is it. And it happened 11 months after our fertility baby…

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I saw two pink lines and the wave of shock and tremendous joy consumed my body. I twirled in a circle over the bathroom floor, with my hand over my mouth, trying to keep from crying or shouting. This is what I’ve wanted. This is it. And it happened 11 months after our fertility baby…

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