It’s hard to believe that we’re already in the last quarter of this year. Before you know it, we’ll be packing up Halloween decor and creating menus and place settings for Thanksgiving. After that, we’ll flip our calendars to December and the pre-Christmas frenzy begins. For those of us who have suffered pregnancy and infant…
Tag: infant loss
Guest Post: Counter-Factual
As I come up on a year since my son, Sebastian, was born and died, I find myself at a vastly different place to the one I was at a year ago, and even six months ago. I could not have imagined the day after he died and I went home to an empty nursery…
Still Listening: Reflections One Year After Loss
Grief Like Waves I woke up this morning to a gorgeous view of the ocean, expansive and terrifying, all encompassing and boundless. The waves pound the shore, ebbing and flowing with the current. It’s absolutely breathtaking. In many ways, I’ve found grief to be like an ocean. In the early days and months after Xavier…
5 Tips for Bereaved Parents
I feel weird even writing this. Who am I to give advice on something as personal as the biggest loss any of us will experience? Especially when we all grieve so differently, and there isn’t really a right or wrong way to do it. Should there even be a “top five” list for something like…
Preparing for a baby you may not bring home: Sunlight in December
This is such a touching post by a mama who was told at 20 weeks that she may not bring her precious baby home. It’s such a tough situation that nobody wishes to learn how to navigate, but when they need to, I hope Kristin’s words can help ❤ When my husband and I became…
Things I Will Never Know About My Daughter
When my daughter died at 37 weeks, my world came crashing down around me. The universe became a raw, emotional, sad place. Each day that I survived was a miracle and every moment that I lived and she didn’t, felt like a curse. Shortly in the beginning of our healing process, I remember my husband…
Wearing Memories
At any moment, I am wearing multiple items that represent and help me remember my son. They are small tokens that provide a concrete thing to aid in intentionally remembering him. To most people, these items probably don’t scream that they are memorials for a baby gone far too soon, and that’s okay. They are…
The Mailbox: An Unexpected Trigger
Hey mama, I want to give you a heads up – especially if you’re just starting your grief journey. Your postal carrier is soon going to be your least favorite person. I’m sure they’re lovely and I know they’re just doing their job, but there are times when they will send you into such a…
How Do You Honor Your Child’s Memory?
It’s hard to believe it’s already been 4 1/2 months since we lost our son, Brady John. In many ways, it feels like it happened yesterday. Yet, I feel as if I am 100 years older. I’m sure many of you experience this same feeling of time warp. Over the past few months, we’ve done…
Donating After Loss
A couple of hours after Mina was born, before I even got to see her for the first time, the nurses in the maternity ward said I should start trying to pump breast milk. They warned that I probably wouldn’t get anything for a few days, especially because Mina was born so prematurely. To everyone’s…
People Will Surprise You
I know that I haven’t traveled the road of a loss mama all that long, but I’m sure what I have experienced in my first few months will resonate with other moms. People will surprise you, both good and bad. I have friends and family who have nailed it – sending me thoughtful texts, saying…
The House That Brady Built
This story starts with a home purchase, which is something that a lot of expectant parents start to think about when they find out they have a little one on the way. My husband, Jeff, and I hadn’t been looking for a new place at all until we found out we were pregnant. It quickly…
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