I’m so excited to introduce to you our first post in our new For the Love series, about what parents do to honor the memory of their littles that left too soon. Meet Heather!
I lost my 1st baby on Easter Sunday, & it was one of the most traumatic things I’ve ever experienced. Not only was it a death of our baby but also our dream of having a family. I was 13-14 week pregnant and we had already told everyone. It was so hard when people would ask me about my baby.
I was also in EXCRUCIATING pain for 2 weeks & ended up having to get a procedure to remove the baby. I walked through 8 months of depression & grief.
We decided to name our baby Lily for the Easter Lily, we planted a pink lily that bloomed just in time for Mother’s Day. I got a tattoo of a lily on my wrist to always remember her & to my amazement the tattoo artist designed a PINK LILY just like the one that we planted!
The only thing that I had to process my emotions was music. I’m a singer/songwriter & I wrote a collection of songs that I ended up putting on a 5 Song EP called “Songs For Healing”. As I started opening up about my story, I realized there were a LOT of other women who had very similar stories. I thought I was alone, but I wasn’t! Music helped me out of the deep pit of depression and made me realize, even in my pain, I can still have purpose.
I played at a memorial service for parents who had lost children & gave out a copy of my EP to everyone. It was healing not only for me, but so many other parents. I received messages & phone calls from people that said my songs were a part of their healing process. I’ve been invited to several memorial events & it’s such an honor to walk alongside others in their grief & to also KNOW the pain they are walking through.
Songs for Healing – EP by Heather Evans: